Put yourself first - what a concept! I can just see the looks of disbelief as they pass over your faces. The cries of anguish - that is so selfish! So what if MY life is fragmented, disorganized and scattered as a result of taking care of everything and everyone around me? This, my friends, is what is known as an E-type personality: the need to be everything to everyone. Time to break this trend and learn a new trick for the upcoming decade.

The resolution I want you to make as we move into 2011 is this: “I resolve to take care of myself first.” I know, resolutions are made and meant to be broken. Frankly, my dears, I don’t care if you break this resolution regularly throughout the year. All I want is for you to think about putting yourself first. Gradually, by thinking of putting yourself first each time you go to help, take over or volunteer, you will at least be considering the possibilities.

This may be one of the most difficult resolutions you ever take on. After years of taking care of everyone around you, it is your turn. Your turn to set priorities, establish healthy boundaries, and focus on what is most important for your own personal growth.
What do you need to be the whole, healthy, and happy individual you were meant to be? What could you do right now to begin to take care of yourself first? It doesn’t have to be huge. You don’t have to race off to an exotic spa on some fabled island (although that would be lovely). Maybe you could take those toes and treat them to a pedicure. Learn to say no when asked to volunteer - again. Take that extra five minutes of quiet just for you. Resolve to take care of yourself first.

As we begin a new decade, make the commitment to rediscover yourself. Happy New Year!

JANUARY 2011 SENIOR LIVING MAGAZINE VANCOUVER ISLAND