Dear Goldie:
I have a little problem over responsibility - not my own but my grandchildren's. Whenever they visit, I am very happy to see them, but problems arise.
Recently, my grandson visited for a weekend. It is difficult to comprehend why he is so untidy. He leaves clothes, books and food wherever he spends time. I know his parents have taught him responsibility, but he seems to be so careless. What do you suggest?
-W.C.

Dear W.C.:
This problem requires good communication. I would suggest you attend to the matter soon because habits become more permanent over time.
Invite your grandson over and have a talk about the situation. He is probably unaware that any problem exists. Bringing it to his attention will likely change his habits. The important point here is to maintain a pleasant relationship with your grandson. Many seniors do not have that good fortune.

Dear Goldie:
I recently moved into a care home and feel that I made a good choice. However, there is a little annoyance with one resident, which requires change.
One lady is just too friendly! Every time I make an appearance, she comes running to help me. I really don't require assistance but she insists on doing everything. It makes me very uncomfortable, but I can't seem to persuade her that I am self-sufficient.
What can I do to stop her?
-A.S.

Dear A.S.:
It sounds like you have tried to discourage this lady, but she still insists on helping. Perhaps it is time to speak to the manager before matters escalate. I am sure changes can be made. If you mention that you would need to consider moving, the manager will doubtless attend to the matter immediately. Good Luck!

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