Ask Goldie - November 2010

By Goldie Carlow

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Dear Goldie:

I am a retired woman in my early 70s needing some incentive to get on with life. I led a very active social and working life until my early 60s, but seem to be in a slump right now. Any suggestions on how I can turn things around? I am healthy, well-educated and travelled extensively before becoming a widow two years ago.

Dear L.D.:

Losing a partner changes your life in many ways. The circumstances of the loss and the strength of the relationship affect the outcome for the survivor.The tone of your letter seems to imply that you have dealt with your initial grief and loss, and you are now prepared to get on with your life. Begin the process by inviting a group of close friends to your home. The conversation will lead to your present situation and intentions. You should start getting social invitations immediately.Good Luck!

Dear Goldie:

Something bothers me about the “Dear Goldie” letters. I have discussed this with friends and their advice was to write to you. So here goes!I just can’t believe the number of women who are prepared, at the drop of a hat, to take off with a stranger and travel halfway around the world with him. Are they crazy? They know nothing about him and, as you warned, their lives are in danger.  I’m sure men would never be so foolish.Why are women so desperate?


Dear S.W.:

Well, I guess the simple reply is that women outnumber men and particularly as we age. This situation can lead to reckless decisions and, as I have said before, dangerous outcomes.There are plenty of ways to instigate safe social interaction where women and men can meet. I mentioned in a much earlier column that anyone could start a coffee meeting group. I see many women's groups as well as men doing so, but someone has to start a mixed group. Anyone can do this. Just set a time and place using this column!




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After reading one of your recent letters regarding readers should write to you regarding the start up of a Koffee Klatch group, I was wondering if you had recived any responses to this.

I am a senior whose wife has goe into a care facility early last year and I would just love to meet either men or women just for the company of sharing thought and enjoying a cuppa on a regular basis - I am not looking for romance, just good comany and maybe the odd trip to the casino etc. Thank you

Posted by Jim Taylor | January 9, 2011 Report Violation

Dear Goldie. I just turned 60years old and feel great. I still jump robe, jog, swim, and dance. I don't have a boyfriend, my husband passed away 10 years ago. People tell me that I need to have a boyfriend, I meet men but don't pursue a relationship. Men are very quick to want to have a relationship, I don't. I say in time maybe someone will come along. Is it ok, not to have one?

Posted by Nancy | November 15, 2010 Report Violation

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