Ask Goldie - June 2010

By Goldie Carlow

View all articles by this author

Dear Goldie:

I hope you can help me in my dilemma as you so often help other seniors.

I am a 76-year-old widower planning to go on a six-week holiday in England and France in the fall. This is my first trip since my wife passed away two years ago. I do not like travelling alone and would like to find a respectable lady whose separate accommodation I would pay for and who would enjoy travelling. I have lived in the city for most of my life and can supply references from well-known people. Of course, I would expect the same from her.

I am only seeking companionship. Travelling alone seems such a wasted experience compared to having someone who can discuss new sights and encounters.

Can you help me find such a person?


Dear B.G.:

I expect your letter will encourage many responses. Numerous respectable women do not like travelling alone. Any replies will be forwarded to you and I sincerely hope you will find someone suitable to share your travels.

My only word of caution is for you to be well acquainted with your new travelling companion before you venture anywhere. Take the time to learn about her habits, her past life and who her friends and associates are at present. You don’t want to risk unpleasant discoveries in another country. If you proceed slowly and take some months to get to know her, you should be able to judge.

Discuss this matter with family and friends and then proceed cautiously.



Dear Goldie:

I wonder if you have any magic to offer a grieving family. My mother, age 65, died suddenly last week of a heart attack. This was totally unexpected because she was such a healthy and active person. She became a widow in her early forties and worked hard to educate two children and grandchildren as well.

Life seems so lonely and empty now for all of her family.


Dear N.D.:

I am sorry to hear about the death of your mother. Such a sudden sad event leaves the family in a state of shock. There is no magic way to get through it. Gradually, when you question the why of such a loss, you'll finally realize that death is as natural as birth and an experience for all of us in time.

Death of family members is never an easy event. Their lives are so intertwined with our own existence; we suffer a sense of physical loss as well as emotional. Time is the healer and faith is the helper to guide you from grief to acceptance.



This article has been viewed 1783 times.


Showing 1 to 2 of 2 comments.

Dear B.G. As I have been widowed for 12 yrs. I understand your need for a travelling companion. My son has been with me on 2 trips in which we have separate accomodation.. Excellent arrangement! I'm moving from the Okanagan to Duncan, into a house he's building, in July. Yesterday on my return trip from the Island, I read your interesting letter while waiting at Cassidy Airport. I may be reached at or (250) 4785-7700. Yours truly, Valerie.

Posted by Valerie Stretch | June 9, 2010 Report Violation

How can I contact the 76 yr old widower who wrote to you regarding the need for a companion for a forthcoming trip to England & France?
Are you able to pass on my email address?
Thank you, Val.

Posted by Valerie Stretch | June 9, 2010 Report Violation

Post A Comment

Comments that include profanity, personal attacks, or antisocial behavior such as "spamming," "trolling," or any other inappropriate material will be removed from the site. We will take steps to block users who violate any of our "terms of use". You are fully responsible for the content you post. Senior Living takes no responsibility for the views and opinions of members using this discussion area.

Submit Articles

Current Issue

Search For Articles


Subscribe To
The Magazine