Ask Goldie - July 2010

By Goldie Carlow

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Dear Goldie:

I feel like my life is falling apart and I am losing my control and independence.

Four months ago, I was a happy senior engaging life in a pleasant care home. A new male resident moved in and everything changed. He acts like he is running the place and is always organizing us for some new venture he has dreamed up. Many of us resent him and a few have spoken to the manager.

His presence here makes me dread waking up in the morning to face another day. What can I do? –L.M.

Dear L.M.:

It sounds like your life has been disrupted, but I am sure it can be changed.

You mention that a few of you approached the manager. How about all of the residents who are unhappy requesting a meeting with the manager? Numbers do help. If management is not interested, then it is time for families or whoever is in charge of your affairs to intervene. Threat of financial loss usually is rarely ignored. Do not delay or this annoyance can get out of hand.

Good Luck!

Dear Goldie:

I have recently sold my home and now live in a large apartment building close to shops, banks, restaurants and the post office. It is a wonderful location and I like it. However, there is a small problem living here. Some of the neighbours are forever having coffee parties. I notice they are very friendly, but if anyone doesn’t show up then he or she becomes the topic of conversation and not always in a complimentary manner. I do not enjoy gossip and would like to get out of the obligation of attending.

What do you suggest? –R.L.

Dear R.L.:

I can understand your unwillingness to participate in such a group. Gossip can cause a great deal of damage to human relationships.

One easy way to avoid such contact is to always have a previous appointment (even if it’s a trip to the library!), so you are not free to attend. Eventually, they will not include you. This will probably make you the topic of coffee hour, but it sounds like there is no way to prevent this. I think the risk is preferable to attending.

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dear Goldie;
I'm man aged 34 and i've haboured an insatiable desire for relationship with elderly ladies but i've never been engaged with one and i believe that time is now. Do you think you could be useful in helping me find a lady aged 65 and above who's lonely, divorced or widowed? i'm honest, loyal and caring.
Please assist me and i shall greatly appreciate

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