Ask Goldie - February 2010

By Goldie Carlow

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Dear Goldie:

What do I do with a family who won’t take me seriously? For months, I have been trying to discuss my Will with them, but they always become amused and assure me that I am not about to die.

I am 86 years old and have no serious illness. I live alone in an apartment and do my own housekeeping and shopping. I am a church member and also do volunteer work with lonely seniors to keep busy.

My Will states that my money, bonds and investments are to be divided between my three children, but my worry concerns the family heirloom china and silver. Two granddaughters would love to have some of it, but I have a feeling one of my daughters will not be willing to share with them.

Is there a solution?


Dear D.N.:

Yes, I can think of at least two solutions.

If you have a legal Will, you can state which items are to be given to your two granddaughters before the remainder of your estate is shared by your children.

Another way to prevent future haggling is to give the pieces to your two granddaughters now before you die. This will give you peace of mind and end all further discussions.

Enjoy your time with your family while you are active and well. Try not to worry about their future. That will be in their hands.


Dear Goldie:

I am a healthy active male in my early 70s. I walk every morning and play golf twice a week. I am active in local charity groups, attend opera and the symphony and really enjoy the single life.

So, why am I writing to you? Well, it seems every lady I meet wants to settle down in marital bliss, and I am not interested. I had a good marriage and still enjoy my children and grandchildren. I like to date for evenings out at dinner and entertainment. That is all I need. Is this unreasonable?


Dear L.W.:

No, this is not unreasonable, and I’m sure you can find ladies who will be interested this type of dating.

I wonder if you are clear in explaining your intentions. It seems odd that all your dates are looking for marriage. Many women tell me they enjoy an occasional evening out with no strings attached, just a bit of romance and certainly good manners.

You seem to enjoy the lifestyle to which you have become accustomed. All I can suggest is to keep your communication lines clear so there is no misunderstanding.

I wonder what will happen if you do meet someone you can’t resist.





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