“I just want to be me.”
A repetitive phrase I hear from those who connect with me in my vocation as a counselling therapist, mentor. While each story is unique, the stories share a similar theme: the desire to relieve physical, emotional, mental, and relational pain. We have a dilemma here - relieving pain requires a change in thought, feeling, action AND to change can be painful. No wonder that we then avoid, deny, pretend and convince ourselves with reasons for hesitation.
What moves a person to now or later make the changes necessary to lessen the pain, improve health and create the next years as the best years? With advancing age, a clear, and perhaps unpleasant, awareness comes to light. The experience is that of the emotion named FEAR.
“If I change the ME who I have come to know through all these years, what happens then? Who will I BE, if not this familiar ME?”
The signs expressed in the physical, mind and soul body are invitations to explore the challenges and benefits of retaining aspects of the ME and what aspects those will be. As with much of life, an irony exists here too: when we BE with what is, the space opens to BECOME what the future and aging invites.
This all takes effort and commitment and, above all, inspiration. One would think that the latter is the easiest: all that is needed is to “draw air into the lungs”. From the first breath at birth to the last at death, we breathe naturally without the need for reminders. How would it be to pay more attention to this activity and to give it the honor it deserves? The Latin word for BREATH is “spiritus” from which we derive the word and the concept of SPIRIT. To breathe is to be with Spirit – the universal life force that both sustains life and inspires change in the BECOMING of who we are meant to BE.
In connection and relationship with the Spirit Energy is the source of inspiration. Similar to the other energies such as wind, solar, mechanical, electrical, yet uniquely its own, the Energy of Spirit is a universal and loving influence to inspire us toward the experience of creativity. The creative can describe the formation of works of art, music, and nature AND much more. The major power of what it means to be creative lies in the human capacity of BECOMING. I know that to draw attention to the Breath, to be vulnerable to the inner journey it provides and to shift the vulnerability to what the daily tasks of life require is a creative way of BEING and BECOMING.
The ME that one desires to experience and retain is the ME who is transforming and called upon to change. Change invites the creativity of BEING the ME who is BECOMING – evolving daily in the presence of Breath, the universal Spirit. For example, from one end of the BECOMING spectrum (meditation) to the other (aerobic exercise), human beings use the energy created by both - and all in between - to instill healthy relationship with self, others and the world. In so doing, the physical, emotional, mental, social and spiritual is worthy of exploration, reflection and action.
“I just want to be me: inspired by the Spirit Energy so I am inspiring in my BECOMING”.
Dr. Glo (Gloria) McArter, counselling therapist, speaker and writer, encourages individuals, couples, and groups to use curiosity, courage, wisdom, and worthiness to nurture good health and wellbeing. You can find out more about her at www.thewisdomofworth.com.
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