Dear Goldie:
Now that I'm in my 80s, I seem to be forgetting so many things, especially names. I have to write everything down in order to keep up a normal life of appointments and attending functions. I live alone in a rental suite close to shops and businesses. My daughter and two sons live within 80 kilometres and visit often. I walk daily; attend a senior organization weekly; and, generally, keep busy. My only problem seems to be memory loss. I am very aware of it and find it annoying. Have you any suggestions?
–L.C.
Dear L.C.:
Keep appointments with your medical doctor so he/she will be aware of any changes in your health. You seem to live in a comfortable area with all conveniences nearby. Your family visits often and you are socially active. Continue in this manner as long as your health permits. You haven't mentioned your dietary habits. This is very important in order to maintain weight, strength, activity and general well-being. No doubt your doctor would notice any change and if there is a link to memory. Reading the daily newspaper and interesting books also keeps you more alert.
Dear Goldie:
I have recently moved to your beautiful city from a lifetime in Ontario. As a retired businessman with a wife and two children – all attending university – life has changed. I feel my role has become chief cook and bottle washer while my family rushes in and out getting an education. I have no regrets about retiring, but it seems now that I finally reached it with all of its enticing possibilities, I can't get out of the kitchen! To add to my problem, I have never liked cooking or cleaning up after meals. I love my family but surely there is a better life of retirement for me. I look forward to your reply.
–S.A.
Dear S.A.:
You paint a sad picture of retirement with you dealing with kitchen chores while your family enjoys more education. Whatever happened to communication in your family? Well, it is never too late to start talking, so set a date and time for a family meeting. When you get together, speak up and let them know exactly how you feel about this situation. If you don't, they will assume you are being quiet because you are content in your new role! Families are often great at making these assumptions. Have a written agenda with you, so you can communicate exactly how you feel.
SENIOR LIVING MAGAZINE MAY 2012
