Ask Goldie - March 2007

By Goldie Carlow

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Dear Goldie:

My life seems to be at a standstill since I recently retired. After years in a business office working as a secretary, I was looking forward to this period of my life, with no commitments and time for fun. However, I feel tired and have no ambition to do anything.
I am a 64-year-old widow, in good health and active. My two sons and three grandchildren live on the East Coast, so I have no family here. I do, however, have many friends and some social life.
What can you suggest to get my life moving in a new direction?

Dear R.A.:

You mention that your retirement is recent, so my immediate thought is that you need a period to relax, after all those years in the business world.
First on the agenda, you could check with your doctor regarding your fatigue.
All being well, you could make yourself a plan. You might begin with a visit to your family. When you return, you can make definite plans for social engagements with friends, and eventually travel.
You are beginning a new stage of life. Between travelling and social events, you will find time on your hands. Why not look into volunteering? It can be very rewarding, and a way to meet new people and develop new interests.
However, you need time for you first. Daily walking is a great habit, and a means to clear thinking and insight to life ahead.
Best of luck!

Dear Goldie:

I am a 70-year-old male, active, healthy and have a wonderful lady friend. My life was really great until about six weeks ago when a crazy lady moved into the apartment next door. Life has been hell ever since! Every time I leave my apartment, she seems to be waiting in the hall for me. She grabs my arm and begins an idiotic conversation.
Her chatter, plus her excessive makeup and perfume, would turn anybody off. But she seems all set to snare a man!
I don't want to move because I like where I live and have been here five years. I can't take this any longer. What should I do?

Dear M.D.:

You really do have a problem, and while some might find it an amusing situation, it certainly infringes on your privacy.
You have been a tenant for several years, so you could ask your landlord to intervene. I doubt he wants to lose a good tenant. Another tactic would be to have your lady friend tell her you are taken, and hands off!
Good luck! I (and our readers) would like to hear how you make out.

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